“Anxiety, nightmares and a nervous breakdown; there’s only so many traumas a person can withstand before they take to the street and start screaming”
Harvard M.D. trauma expert Dr Frank Ochberg says “ Our culture now disparages, blames, isolates and condemns someone for being a victim.”
The dictionary definition of “victim” is: One who is harmed by, or made to suffer from an act, circumstance, agency or condition; a person who is tricked swindled or taken advantage of.
The victim of a narcissist is traumatized. There are biochemical changes in the body and structural changes in the brain. Thought patterns change, memories are lost, immune system strongly affected, brain cells die, there is chest pain, muscle pain, feelings are intense and emotions chaotic.
Source Psychology Today
I have recovered from the abuse, learnt, developed, discovered and live my life to the full. However I was a victim, and to some degree will always be that victim. I feel no shame or guilt for that. I have no reason to. I do however feel guilty that the destruction permeated to my husband, family and close friends, that is my responsibility in this matrix of narcissist abuse.