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Project; Let’s Write Love The magic wand to writing is writing. There is nothing complicated about it, just start. Find that space and time, and simply begin to write your stories as blogs. When I started, I wrote chapters in a short story format as I went along. I published them as blogs. Later on, I headed into the editing process, which I will cover later on, organizing and editing my blogs into the book. Don't overwhelm yourself by believing you are starting to write a book. That's not how writing works. You write a sentence, then a paragraph, then maybe if you're lucky, an entire chapter. Writing happens in fits and starts, in bits and pieces. It's a process. You take one step at a time, then another and another. To help you kickstart your writing, I am going to give you a prompt. And that is the Word' Love'. It sounds simple, but the truth is love is a complex web of action and emotion. It's an emotion that runs through every story in all guises. It can be pure love, deep love, lonely love, anxious love, abusive love, conflicted love, whatever kind of love you are feeling or experiencing. Below some examples to help stimulate your creative juices; 1 Love in Isolation. 2 Family Love 3 Love for a partner 4 Lost Love 5 Broken Love 6 Enduring love 7 Obsessive Love 8 Love of a Pet 9 The pain of Love 10 Dangerous Love 11 Happy Love This exercise will help you understand your voice in your style of writing. : : You can email me your writing Room19sf@gmail.com and let’s build a safe place for us to create and share together ❤️ Get started, keep writing. Stay Safe, Stay Positive, Create, don't Despair. Dress @onjenu : : : : #amwriting #writingcommunity #covıd19 #selfisolation #writelove #ireland🇮🇪 #vision2020 #imagemagazineireland #theglossmagazine #voguemagazine #creativewriting #irishwriters #writingtips #howtowrite #covid19ireland #coronavirusireland #staysafe #createeveryday #createdontdespair
Hi everyone, just a little reminder to find that space and start your writing. Last post on my grid- Writing 1 - What, Why, Knowledge, stay on it. : Get writing, keep writing and email me. Chat tomorrow. Stay Safe, Stay Positive, Create don’t Despair. 💃 #absolutelypatsy : : : . #staysafe #stayhome #letswritetogether #letswrite #writingprompts #writinginspiration #womenover50 #amwriting #psychologicalthriller #fictionwriter #memoir #creativewritingsociety #writingcommunity #womenempowerment #covıd19 #covid19ireland #lovindublin #vision2020
Like so many of you I am looking after my mum and dad in their older age. As I am in self isolation right now it’s proving very difficult and worrying. Mum who is not well fell a few times last night and my poor 92 year old dad finding it hard to cope. It breaks my heart that elderly people have to go through all of this alone during a time when we should be with them and hugging and minding them. Still waiting to be tested. Lots of love to all the elderly out there 💗 : : : : #covid19ireland #staysafe
As Promised today is the start of writing our way through these difficult times. Today's project below. What - What do you want to write about? There are so many genres in writing: Romance, Fantasy, Thriller, Detective, Mystery, Adventure, Horror. Or you might want to write a memoir, or what you are going through right now, possibly as a blog. And then there is Young Adult Fiction and Children. Whatever you want to write, it's essential that in a few hundred words, you outline your idea. That's the first thing for you to do today. : Why - Why do you want to write it? Similarly, write a few hundred words on why you want to write. That will help you understand what your end goal is. Do you want to have a novel at the end, or a series of short stories, start a blog, publish or for own satisfaction? : Knowledge - What is your experience, understanding, comprehension of your subject matter? ‘Write for yourself; rewrite for others'…this is one of the most excellent writing tips for beginners anyone could give you. Know your subject, but equally as important, know your audience better than they know themselves. Act as if you are speaking to one person and write accordingly to create an emotional tie with your readers. : The Magic of Writing Writing is magic, from your imagination, you can create something quite literally out of nothing. Once I started the process of writing, I began to love it. I found myself looking forward to my allocated writing time, excited to see where I was going with the characters and story. The best way to do justice to writing is to love it. Once you start enjoying the process as I did, it will come naturally to you, and you'll look forward to writing every day. Your magic wand to writing is to simply put your fingers to the keyboard or pen to paper. Set a time, be disciplined, and reveal in your writing. Be consistent and keep the words flowing regularly. Try and notch up a few hundred words every day, so you don't lose the thread the magic touch. : Email: room19sf@gmail.com Top @onjenu. Love @tommazer #absolutelypatsy
My babe Olliepop telling me how much he loves me as I self isolate, not feeling great, waiting to be tested. @petbond_ireland : : : : #absolutelypatsy #covid19ireland #dogslove #dogslife🐶 #lovemyshihtzu #mentalhealth #staysafeoutthere #selfisolation
FUEL YOUR MIND WITH CREATIVE WRITING while in self isolation. Learn to write with someone who loves to write. I have done a lot of courses, studies and workshops on writing and I want to share all of that with you. I have a couple of successful blogs, written a book and a short film script that was about to go into production but now postponed. Let’s put fingers to keyboards and let the words spill out. Let's start to write that story that has been percolating in your brain but you never had the time to take on. Or you might want to write about what you are going through right now. If you need inspiration or want a few quick tips to help keep your words flowing onto the screen, you can dip into my workshops [tutorials]. Anytime, anywhere, anyone. Let's create not despair.

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The Impact of Absence in Emotional Abuse

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So often we think of abuse as something that happens to us, but have you ever thought about what it means to a person who suffers from the abuse of omission?  Emotional abuse can be so deceptive, that most of the time, people who are victims have no idea they are being abused.  One way to analyze your situation to determine if you are being emotionally abused is to consider, rather than what the other person is doing, is what the effects are on you.  What may be hurting you may not be overt, but rather covert; you may not suffer from anything you can put your finger on because your abuser may be hurting you by what he’s not doing.

Here are some things to consider:  Do you find yourself being confused within this relationship?  Do you analyze yourself or an argument with this person to determine where you went wrong or what you could have done differently?  Do you find yourself blaming yourself for the things that go wrong?  Do you find yourself accepting fewer and fewer “crumbs”from this person as time goes on, being grateful for any small comment or gesture that feels validating?  Do you feel like an emotional wreck?  Do you feel desperate or in despair?  Do you read lots of articles, blogs, and books looking for ways to improve your relationship?  Have you lost trust in your own perceptions?  Other symptoms of emotional or covert abuse include feelings of rage, low self-esteem,  anxiety, preoccupation with the relationship, obsessive need to fix it, feelings of guilt and shame, despair and loss of hope, increased addictions, loss of  gain of weight. I know I felt all of those things, despair being the deepest of them all.

Not only does emotional abuse, neglect, and covert abuse cause all of the above, it also costs other losses to your sense of identity as well.  According to Bonnie Badenoch, Ph.D., the deepest and most consistent pain people tend to experience comes from disconnection.  Neurobiology teaches us that our most basic quest is for attuned relationships.  When considering that our most basic human need is for meaningful relationships with others, consider the effects of emotional neglect, abuse, and absence.

When in a relationship with someone who has a personality disorder or is emotionally abusive, there are many things that are missing.

When discussing the abuse of absence, it is important to realize that one of the biggest deficits in the relationship involves a lack of presence.  You don’t feel “seen and heard” by your partner because he cannot, will not, does not care to see or hear you.  This in turn leads to you not being truly known.  Without presence in your relationship you experience the sense of not really mattering that much, if at all.  You learn to numb your emotions and dissociate from your heart’s greatest needs.

Another loss from the abuse of absence is the loss of your dreams to have a relationship that is deep, meaningful, fulfilling, and satisfying.  All of these qualities are absent from an emotionally abusive relationship.  When you start counting the costs to your well-being and quality of life you start to realize the effects, and in turn, start opening your eyes to the fact that yes, indeed, you are being abused.  As you start looking at the costs, you can start validating yourself and start the healing process.

If your abuser is your spouse, consider all that has been stolen from you – your biggest dreams for lifelong love, a stable family for your children, a close, intimate best friend to share all your hopes with, a soul mate, a refuge in times of trouble.  So much is lost when your spouse is your abuser.  You’ve had to live in denial, overlook hurts and offenses for years.

All emotional abusers tend to be brain washers.  One of the best ways to ensure a bond is through inconsistent reinforcement.  These abusers in our lives do not only and always do things that are underhanded or hurtful.  If that were the case our problems would be easier to identify.  Instead, they periodically show up as Mr. Wonderful or Mrs. Loving and Kind.  When this happens we temporarily relax, feel relieved, and “forget” all the mean things they have done or neglects they have perpetrated.  We are “reinforced” to stay bonded to the person because this reprieve feels overly important since it is so desired and unpredictable.  It is similar to the hostage takers who were given credit by their hostages for not killing them (Stockholm syndrome).  In the end, with emotional abusers, the victims are willing to accept scraps because they seem so precious.  It’s akin to a person dying of thirst.  When water is available its value is overlooked, but when a person is almost dying from thirst, the smallest amount is worth more than its weight in gold.  When people are in a covertly abusive relationship, with little emotional validation, the smallest amount of positive reinforcement feels like a huge gift.  This is because abusers have trained their victims to feel desperate.

Shared in part from PsychCentral

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