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I am obsessing over my book draft. To paraphrase a quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald; “I feel like I am swimming under water and holding my breath.” I read and read it but I can’t let it go as finished. #eventide_love : : : : #amwriting #emotionalabuse as #psychologicalthriller #mystory #writingchallenge #gaslighting #hitchcock #davidlynch #creativewritings #blogto #bookshelves #bookquotes #myblog #truestory💯 #lovindublin
‘Dark Star crashes, pouring its light into ashes… Mirror shatters in formless reflections of matter… Shall we go, you and I while we can… Through the transitive nightfall of diamonds…. ‘ : : Eventide Love is my story of emotional abuse as a psychological thriller. : The protagonist relies on mental resources rather than physical strength to overcome his victim. The conflict is played out through mind games, deception, and manipulation, with sustained attempts to demolish the victim’s mental equilibrium. #eventide_love @ptsouros : : #psychologicalabuse #psychologicalthriller #emotionalabuse #blogto #book #mystory #creativewriting #safeireland #amwriting #gaslightingawareness #hitchcock #davidlynch
“At that very first kiss I felt something melt inside me that hurt in an ethereal way. All my longings, all my dreams and sweet anguish, all the secrets that slept deep within my soul came awake. I felt the narcotic sensuality of Maryvn Gaye’s lyrics playing inside my heart in perfect harmony with life.” #eventide_love #emotionalabuse as a #psychologicalthriller : : #amwriting #mystory #psychologicalabuse #creativewriting #hitchcock #davidlynch #relationshipsgoals #badlove #marvyngaye #myquote #publishing #metoo #metoomovement #womenempowerment #ireland🍀
Emotional Abuse as a Psychological Thriller. Link in Bio: : There were many shades in the danger of adventures and gales, most of which were exhilarating and golden. It is only now and then that there appears on the face of facts a sinister violence of intention- that indefinable something which forces it upon the mind and the heart. It is this complication of incidents, or these elemental furies coming at me with a purpose of malice, with a strength beyond control, with an unbridled cruelty. And this means it tears out my hope and passion. MY pain of fatigue and longing for rest targets destruction, annihilates all I can see, known, loved, enjoyed, or hated; all that is priceless and necessary- the sunshine, the memories, the future. My precious world as I knew it sweeps utterly away from my sight, further and further as each day goes by, it’s simply an appalling act of losing my life.” #eventide_love : :: #emotionalabuse as a #psychologicalthriller #artwork🎨 @darren_crowley : : #amwriting #mystory #psychologicalthriller #hitchcock #publishing #psychological #womensaid #lovindublin #blogtobook #lifeblogger #davidlynch #reesewitherspoonbookclub #womenempowerment #emotionalrollercoaster
“As my life unraveled from my relationship with Paul, I wanted people to see the abuse, to believe it, to have faith in me. And more than that, I wanted them to know me. Not the stuff they thought they knew about me. No, the real me. I wanted them to get past the rumors, to see beyond the exposer of the relationship. I needed them to understand the devastation, to cushion the fall without preconception. What I didn't know at that stage is that when Paul messed with my life, he was not messing with one part of my life, he was messing with my entire life. Every thread of my life.” #eventide_love : Emotional Abuse as a Psychological Thriller. #artwork🎨 Flora Borsi : : : #emotionalabuse #psychologicalthriller #mystory #creativewriting #writinginspiration #davidlynch #hitchcock #publishing #bookpublishing #psychological #psychologicalabuse #lovindublin #womensaid #womenempowerment
Eventide Love this is my story. In a speech at Wheaton College, Massachusetts, Carl Sagan spoke of how we humans share 99.6% of our active genes with chimpanzees. He described male chimps as aggressive and female chimps as non-aggressive. When under stress or threatened, male chimps become angry, pick up stones and hold them in their palms to hurl at the target. Female chimps, he tells us, walks up to the angry males, pry open their fingers, removes the stones, and drop them on the ground. I tried to take the stones from his hands; I tried talking, texting, writing, believing, settling, begging, tears and anger. I always tried to be the peacemaker, to give him what he wanted while attempting to maintain some dignity. That was unacceptable to him; he wanted to control the terms completely. His terms harmed me. It carried on. Every time I tried to kill the flame, he would always reignite it. My instinct for survival made me realize that unless he was crushed completely the flame would never go out. #eventide_love ; : : #psychologicalthriller #psychological #thriller #thrillers #amwriting #mystory #myblog #emotionalabuse #hitchcock #davidlynch #blogtobook #writingblog

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Emotional Abuse Posts

I am sharing this text  from – After Narcissistic Abuse – There is Light, Life & Love.

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Most people live by compassion and love, so it is nearly impossible to understand a Narcissist – or the manner in which they can abuse others. Come on they wrote the “love story” for us, one in which they played the key role as the love of our life but that is all it was only a role they played. Nobody taught us that there were two types of love out there – one that was “real and normal” and its counterpart “one that was fake and intended to abuse and destroy”. The narcissist love leaves us with only psychological abuse/terrorism embedded in our minds and souls. Like a hurricane hitting our lives and everything shattered to pieces, we have to re-build that house which is our lives.

Unfortunately the “love” aspect doesn’t just go away once we understand the real process of abuse – so that is like a punch to your brain from the right and left – and a conflict that seems to work against you many times and makes you fall backwards into the abuse. It is our empathy and ability to love that keeps calling out – that is what we were born with, that is what we grew up with all around us – that is real life and it plays a major role in the recovery process.

There is even a great love story written called the “Beauty and the Beast” – but it even ends up with the terrible “beast” becoming an amazing product of love. The “beast” in our love story was a real life predator and we were only prey and somehow we loved this predator – a hard pill to swallow.
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ALSO a huge factor to consider, the Narcissist isn’t going to allow closure they are more than often off and consuming the life of another target and they have laid out the groundwork for our final demise with a smear campaign that not only makes us out to be mentally ill but THEIR abuser. They have a network of minions that they have charmed into believing their lies so they can continue to find more victims, extort them, abuse them and so on and so forth! They are predators and camouflage themselves from the real world or they can’t survive!

You will go back and forth between depression and devastation for a very long time. You will have good days and bad ones. One day, you will think you can move on and the next, you wake up torn up devastated again. You don’t want to be upset and you don’t deserve to be upset because all you did was fall in love. You isolate yourself for a period of time and you surround yourself with very few people whom you are comfortable with and understand you . You have obsessive, racing thoughts and the tiniest things set you off.

Your boundaries are returning (or perhaps being formed for the very first time) and you can’t believe you let yourself sink so low. You realize how much you lost and not just friends, money, life experience, etc., but also your spirit and innocence. Your kind understanding of the world has been shattered. Instead of giving people the benefit of the doubt, you suddenly have trouble trusting. You will experience constant feelings of dread and tightness in your heart.

You start asking questions. Why did this happen to me and what are my vulnerabilities that enabled this? Of course these vulnerabilities aren’t your fault, but it is important to understand how you were able to be exploited.

You begin to discover your strengths. Many of these were strengths you always possessed but never valued by putting them in their proper place or perspective. You realize your compassion, empathy, and love are not weaknesses. They are the most incredible gifts in the world, when applied to the right people. Your self-respect comes from within, not other people validating your insecurities and using them against you. You start to understand who you are and who you’re truly meant to be.

It took the psychopath/narcissist’s nastiness to make you see exactly who you never want to be as well as awakening your amazing qualities. You begin to explore your creative side, and you stop caring what others think of you. Old friendships may change as you change and become more confident. Embrace the new you, and open your heart to love again. You are free now. You should be so, incredibly proud of yourself. You made it, and your life path has forever changed for the better.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder[1] in which a person is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy,power, prestige and vanity, mentally unable to see the destructive damage they are causing to themselves and to others in the process. It is estimated that this condition affects one percent of the population.[2][3] First formulated in 1968, NPD was historically called megalomania, and is a form of severe egocentrism.[4]

Narcissistic individuals use various strategies to protect the self at the expense of others. They tend to devalue, derogate and blame others, and they respond to threatening feedback with anger and hostility.

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10 comments on “Emotional Abuse Posts

  1. Lisa says:

    How can I contact you?

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  2. Susan says:

    Survived a horrible man who is Narcissist and still scares me that 1 human being could be so AWFUL, the pain that he caused was unbelievable,, now have freedom to be me

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    1. Enjoy your freedom Susan.

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  3. David Cady says:

    That happened to me to. Funny how this just showed up on my Facebook wall out of nowhere. I guess I’m ready to believe what you wrote.

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    1. Hi David, Thanks for your comment, unfortunately it happens and as I have discovered more than you would think. Wishing you all the best.

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  4. pauline121 says:

    Have lived all my life with it. Still suffering at hands of this person. It is soul destroying and they have no idea of the untold damage it does. It has destroyed the happiness of my family now and sometimes I just want to die. I cant or wont forgive this cruel person that robbed us of our childhood and adult yrs.

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  5. Katherine says:

    “Enter your comment here… to hear, “Im not the only one to have gone through this, with
    such a crazy man. I dont feel so alone. Very difficult to move on, after this type of abuse.

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  6. Jennifer says:

    It’s ironic that this popped up on my Facebook page right now as my cousin is going through a nasty break up at the moment and after reading this i realised that he has all the traits of a narcissistic. The entire break down of the relationship was his fault yet he refuses to take responsibility for any of it. Blames her for everything. He hacked her Facebook page and sent vile messages to men who he thinks shes been seeing because they might have liked a status,pretending to be her, to turn them against her. He is telling his family lies about her and the worst was the other night he broke into the home and beat her up in front of their 6 year old daughter. She won’t go down the legal route because she doesn’t want to do that to him because of her daughter. We think she needs to get a restraining order taken out and call the police if he comes to the house but we can’t get through to her. We’re worried that he’s going to kill her one day.

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    1. Hi Jennifer, ask her to read my blog the After section and you might be interested to see some links to follow for more info. It would much fairer on her daughter if he was made responsible for his behaviour. Unfortunately it’s very hard to convince someone in this type of addiction ( as I call it) to walk away and cut all ties. I am so sorry for your situation. It would be great if you could get her to talk to a psychiatrist with expertise in abusive addictive refashion ships Dr Michele Cahill or Dr Jim Lucy are excellent. Wishing you all the best. Patricia

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