Are you stuck in an abusive relationship or struggling to recover from one. Well, what I can tell you is that my most valuable realisation during my entire experience is if you don’t take care of yourself if you are not going to love yourself or uncover every stone to help yourself, you will never be free from the abuse and its aftermath. If you are not going to explore every single opportunity to get away from emotional destruction and prerequisites to endure the aftermath, you will never make it through the recovery process. Many people stay stuck in the abuse while either in or out of the relationship. They have cemented in the suffering, and it means their entire life is based on trauma. As wonderful it is to have family and friends who love you they are not going to take you away from your suffering, only you can do that. Like alcoholism or drug addiction, the ongoing enslavement is the product of your feelings and fears that opened the door to the ignominy in the first place.
It’s been a long and very wobbly road for me to realise I do not want to stay in this zone anymore. I don’t want to remain stuck. I am not disassociating, hiding or running from the reality of my situation anymore. I don’t want my life to remain based in trauma anymore. Trust me you won’t just wake up one day and be happy, free and fully living life again if you don’t put the effort in to do so. No one else is going to give me the peace and love I crave; I need to do that for myself first. And so do you.
The long-term cumulative effects of abuse are often difficult to quantify. For many victims, their way of coping is to suppress painful memories. Others have feelings of detachment or isolation; their self-worth and self-esteem destroyed. Feelings from abuse contribute to emotional problems and disorders, including anxiety, panic attacks, stress, depression, and PTSD.
Stress is credited for up to 75% of all hospital stays. Studies have shown those who do not come to terms with abuse, have a harder time dealing with stressful situations in life. As life progresses, situations associated with the abuse are difficult to handle.
Understanding emotional and mental abuse is one thing. Effectively releasing the pain and emotions attached to abuse is something completely different.
To let go, you must take action and to make the changes necessary to move on with your life. Abuse tends to impede how we process thoughts and emotions. It very often contributes to PTSD, anxiety and OCD. It touches a person at the core of their mental and emotional abilities so seeking professional help will assist with your struggle to make sense of it all, to find your life again.
Nothing changes unless you give yourself a chance to change. Raise your odds on reclaiming your life by making yourself aware and knowledgeable by reading every piece of information on emotional and psychological abuse out there. Information was paramount in my understanding and efforts to make sense of my experience. Decide it’s time to live and support your mental and emotional needs in a meaningful and willful manner.
Remember, your life does not have to be based on trauma. You can give yourself the gift of a peaceful life if you just take a deep breath, let go of the fear, be prepared and make the leap forward.